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Jan 2002 issue


When a sudden personal catastrophe happens, you lie there and the feeling is overwhelming: " Why me?" In many terminal disease cases, victims look back at their life; often with regret at many things said or unsaid, feeling like they may have done something wrong to 'deserve' their affliction. Where their conscience is trouble-free, the overwhelming question still arises:

" Why me? What did I do wrong to deserve this?".

After spending six months in hospital and now partially disabled, a common question I used to get was

" Did you ask yourself why you had Guillain-Barre Syndrome ( GBS )?"

To tell the truth, I rarely asked that question since GBS can strike anyone and anywhere, very much like cancer - except you stand a far lesser chance of dying from GBS. Once you remove the anguish of trying to find answers for ' why' questions that rarely have answers; the path is clear.

Instead of anguishing over the " whys ' in our lives, we should focus instead on the " whats" .

" What can I do to make this thing right?"
" What can I do to make myself a better person?"
" What can I achieve after this illness?"
" What can be done to make my family happier?"

In my case, it was an issue of asking " what can I do to get better quickly" and then later, " what can I do as a disabled person?".

Sometimes there are answers to the " whys " in life, for example, maybe if this or that person had never chosen to smoke, they may have lived a longer, better life.

But once catastrophe strikes, even if there are answers to the " whys" one should not dwell on these - one should look again at the " what " issues in life.

David Lim

Corporate Motivator, Trainer

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